Well my life is teaching me lessons once again. Here is the latest life lesson that I feel the need to pass on, to hopefully prevent others from falling into the same situation as I have.
My entire life I have been taught “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.
I was a very giving person from a small child on. I was known to give my dolls away to visiting children who enjoyed playing with them. I am not sure what that means, weather we are born with a giving heart or weather my parents taught me to be kind and giving. The act was genuine, and still to this day it is my nature when I see someone in need to simply respond by very willing giving.
I must tell you after my mother passed away, the grieving process was difficult. Watching her and assisting her through 14 months of decline, I grew very confused and lost. I needed the support of mental health therapy to make sense of things after her passing.
With my father being from the “old age views” on emotional issues, he of course, had a different opinion on my search for understanding 🙂
My childhood was somewhat different, and my brain leads me to examine things from many different perspectives to attempt to obtain the best possible explanation for what makes me think and act like I do.
Here are some examples of what helped me humorously get through my counseling…..
~Since I was born on my sister’s 3rd birthday, I decided that means that I truly have no birthday, (because that day was already taken by her) 🙂
~Mmmmm, Than that means my entire life I have been simply someone’s gift. 🙂
Might that be why I like to give so much to others? Maybe it is a simple as that….. I am just that gift that doesn’t stop giving. 🙂
My dad began to love my analogy of why I was, who I was.
I totally love my parents, although like all parents some things I lived through possibly could have ended up better if things were handled a bit differently but “hind site is always 20/20” right?
My therapy experience and search for independence, understanding and wisdom became a bit of a joke between my dad and I. Statements like “yeah, That came up on the therapist couch too, Daddy.” would trigger a laugh from both of us 🙂
Anyway back to my latest lesson and experience that I wish to pass on to others ………
I met and fell in love with a man who was very nice sometimes. He was in need of help at times and “of course I felt the need to help him because I loved him!”
This man like all of us at times, had times when he simply fell out of being nice.
When he fell out of being nice though, it wasn’t just that he became grumpy and not nice to be around like most people. He turned very aggressive, angry and would go into a full fledged “bully attack mode”. He would set into affect hate filled acts of intimidation by threatening law suits and setting into affect vindictive acts in an attempt to shame you.
Well these are the shining new lessons, getting to know and love this person taught me……
~ALWAYS STAND UP TO A BULLY!
~NEVER LET ANYONE USE YOU AS A DOORMAT!
~WHEN YOU GIVE IN GENUINE LOVE TO ANOTHER AND THEY MAKE THREATS OF INTIMIDATION TO GET THEIR WAY, STAND UP AGAINST WHAT IS WRONG!
~MAKE SURE TO TREAT HIM EXACTLY AS WELL AS HE TREATS YOU!
~THE SECOND YOU STOP SUPPORTING A PERSON WHO IS ATTEMPTING TO INTIMIDATE YOU INTO BEING THEIR LIFE SUPPORT, THEY WILL FALL OFF (LIKE A PARASITIC INSECT) AND NO LONGER BE ABLE TO LIVE OFF OF YOUR LOVING KINDNESS.
~BE SURE TO CONTINUE TO LIVE IN LOVE AND TRUTH.
~TRUE SELFLESS LOVE OFFERED TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING WILL BE RECOGNIZED FOR THE GENUINE GIFT IT IS. (EVEN IF THE PERSON THEMSELVES CANNOT SEE IT, OTHERS WILL NOTICE AND SUPPORT YOU IN YOUR BATTLE TO STAND UP AGAINST WHAT IT WRONG)
~SHARING GENUINE LOVE AND KINDNESS WITH OTHERS FILLS YOUR HEART WITH A PEACEFULNESS THAT WORDS COULD NEVER EXPLAIN.
~MOST IMPORTANTLY A GENUINE SENSE OF HUMOR GIVES YOU STRENGTH TO GET THROUGH THE NEXT DAY 🙂
WITH RESPECT, HOPE, JOY AND LOVE, CARMELA