Ghosts that haunt are not always scary, sometimes they are best described as disappointments. In our lives as we live through the challenges and encounters that life throws our way, we will meet people who can leave us totally heartbroken with disappointment.
As a person who is a constant seeker of spiritual beauty and truth, I get great joy, contentment and peace offering kindness and genuine love to others. In my adventures I have met several people who I have extended great kindness and support to who have deeply hurt me with dishonest habits.
When we find ourselves confronted with conflict that we cannot change or be supportive of, the best option for our life is to continue our life with the same integrity we have always lived and part ways with those who wish to live in a different manner.
This does not mean however, that the memories of these encounters does not live on. They often surface bringing with them a very sad feelings of disappointment.
There are times in our life when we will meet people who think differently and live differently than we are used to. Many of these encounters will enrich our lives and give us personal growth.
It is when an encounter with someone begins to change and our normality of life and integrity are challenged and belittled by another that we need to separate ourselves from the situation.
Even though the person may be blaming you and belittling you as a person, this has nothing to do with you or anything you have done. The other person has a true inner weakness of blame. Because he or she is feeling small they wish you to feel smaller so they attack to pull you down with them.
For whatever reason deep inside if the person does not get their own way, or is not believed to be right, an inner switch is flipped on and the blame game begins. They will be right and everyone else wrong. Tensions rise and the name calling aggression starts.
I have no idea what is truly going on in their heads, and I do not know if there is a diagnosis or proper name for these actions. What I do know is that I have seen this happen many times and the people that are doing this are not happy people. They are mislead in believing that what they are doing will gain them happiness.
Remove yourself from the chaos. Do whatever you need to do to reconnect with your inner peace.
Prayer is my choice of action against chaos, aggression and uncertainty.
The Holy Spirit Provides us with Endless Strength, Courage and Wisdom.
……………… Intimidators and Bullies Change your ways ……………….
If you are a person who has an inner weakness of blame. When you feel angry and out of control. Re-examine your thoughts and feelings. Look deep inside yourself for the answers before you unleash blame on everyone other than yourself.
Invite the Holy Spirit into your life, and pray daily for assistance in managing the monster from within that unleashes the blaming defense on others as soon as your confidence feels shaken.
Allow the beauty of the Holy Spirit to take over and lead you.
Learning to Live in Love will bring you unending Peace from Within.
Never let anyone attack your integrity, belittle you, intimidate you or manipulate a situation with dishonest bullying tactics. Remove yourself from the situation and continue your journey of seeking and sharing spiritual beauty and truth with others.
Dishonesty will never win over Truth and Love. Follow the Light and walk away from Darkness.
With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love, Carmela
Carmela Snelbaker 