Songs can often facilitate healing
Yesterday I experienced someones unconsolable sadness.
It did not look as you would imagine it to be.
It was nasty.
It was mean.
It was hidden deep within.
It was buried deep behind layers of shame.
Behind layers of guilt.
For some reason my eyes could see well past nasty, around the corner of mean and over the horizon of both shame and guilt.
I reached out with words.
I reached out with hugs.
I reached out with stories from my life experiences.
Everything was met with responses of deep anger and rage.
When you burst out crying alone in a room, and you realize that no one truly knows how unhappy you are because you don’t know how to explain whats going on, pray for help. Pray for strength in accepting the help. Pray for the wisdom to put words to your feeling of sadness deep within your heart.
Life is not always happy.
It is not a bad thing to let others know when you are hurting.
If you cannot find strength to ask for help from other people, Pray for help.
People who are angry and lashing out with nasty words are often very deeply hurting.
Often the hurt is so deep and so misunderstood that the person is even beyond
finding tears for the deep sorrow.
When assistance is refused, turned away or rebuked …… do not give up. Say prayers for the person and continue to provide support, vary the mode of communication, make available avenues or methods the individual can use to find independent understanding and wisdom. Deep shame based hurt may feel impossible to be verbally communicated to those close to the individual.
Never stop praying for others.
With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love, Carmela