Carmela Snelbaker

Author of "Thank You For Your Service, Sheep!"
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    • Caution…… proceed with care ❤️ and respect

      Posted at 11:44 AM by carmelasnelbaker
      Sep 16th

      I believe I must be feeling many of the same things a majority of Americans might also be feeling but afraid to say for fear of offending a friend or being ostracized for having a different opinion then someone else.

      Life in America has changed significantly and in my opinion…… I most genuinely dislike the road we are on!!!! I am completely aware that “in current day America” when you express an opinion that differs from another person it is very common for people who think differently then you to now “place a label on you and call you “a hater” …… for daring to express your opinion!

      It doesn’t matter how or why we ended up at this point…… what truly matters is continuing forward this way seems so foreign and “un-American” to me.

      I am quite aware that our history as Americans was never perfect and discrimination, hate, and division was very much an active part of our history….. possibly because I was very young when it was happening, my exposure was limited and my parents were not “inflamers” constantly discussing only one very opinionated mindset or view (like what is available today with 24 hour 7 days a week opinionated televised coverage).

      I am totally at a loss for why our past division felt less scary to me then our current division does….but what I do know for sure is that my career choice for caring for people…. Has taught me love for ALL regardless of cultural upbringing, religious believes, political opinions, physical appearances, physical or mental abilities. We NEED to be WILLING TO SEE THE PERSON FIRST! We need to get away from division by “NOT LABELING PEOPLE”…….. choosing sides or dividing into groups.

      Even if you feel extremely devoted to your Christian faith it is imperative that we love all people and pray for them. As a Christian I have complete faith in the power of God and feel I should never be judgmental of other human beings or question their independent beliefs. We can also support and respect people of differing beliefs without believing they are doing something wrong simply because their footsteps may not follow the exact path as the one I may have chosen to follow.

      Today’s world seems to want to choose sides and make life into a “competitive sport” atmosphere and thrive on who should “win” or who is the “most right” I find this incredibly SAD we are ALL HUMANS. We all feel pain, we all are devastated by the loss of a loved one no matter what side we are on……and because we are all human we all will sometimes make mistakes, sometimes mispeak, sometimes bleed, feel trauma and possibly speak with emotions over logic…… instead OF LEADING with “chosen religious belief, political party affiliation, or any other cultural belief or “LABLE” we may strongly believe in…….. let’s start seeing each other and loving each other as people first!

      Let’s unanimously refrain from labeling each other in descriptive ways, making fun of and excluding those with differences and begin showing respect to all people! Nothing will ever change if we approach life as a competitive sport “label” each other and divide into sides! ☹️

      Unity should not be a “power grab” by the richest, the loudest, the scariest or most threatening individuals…… if this happens haven’t we totally lost our identity as the United States…. Isn’t individual Unity of it’s citizens the very distinctive trait that American Identity thrives on?

      With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love, Carmela

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    • The Right Road, Really?

      Posted at 2:15 PM by carmelasnelbaker
      Apr 9th

      During a cross country trip traveling with my daughter, we sat in a roadside restaurant somewhere in South Dakota. Our attention was directed to a little girl about 3 or 4 years old, I am not sure what she did to get our attention but I remember commenting to her father about how cute she was. “Well, she is definitely a leader” her father commented, and with a chuckle he continues to tell us “I said to my wife, we better make sure she goes down the right road, because if we don’t she will be taking a lot of people down the wrong road with her”.

      That quick encounter happened 19 years ago. I have recalled that moment many times since, the memory always brings a smile and a chuckle, and makes me wonder where and what that sweet child is doing now.

      In that moment while my daughter and I sat admiring a child who couldn’t contain the Joy the day was bringing her, each one of us were unaware of the events that will be yet to unfold in each of our futures.

      Recently during caregiving, the wife of a person I was taking care of stated to me, “if I knew before hand the death and illness my family would have to face, I would never even have gotten married.”

      Time is irreplaceable. Life doesn’t allow for “do overs”. It requires us to dive into unforeseen adventures.

      Is there really such a thing as “the right road” or is that “road” forever changing and relative only to each precious moment in time?

      I have learned that life teaches by experiences. We can try to prepare ourselves and do our absolute best at living “right” and staying on the “right road” but in reality, each moment of the day we are called to improvise and navigate through the encounters life brings to us in that very moment.

      The maturity of our faith can change with every new event we experience; new person we encounter or conversation we share.

      22 years ago my mother who was nearing death was attempting to prepare me for navigating through my life without her. What she was telling me wasn’t making sense in that moment. It appeared as if she was hallucinating or deeply confused. It wasn’t until after her passing when events began to unfold and the memories of those moments began to become clear.

      For months afterward I searched every memory for a deeper meaning, trying desperately to understand the hidden messages she was attempting to place before me. I never felt so alone and unprepared for what was next to come. I prayed desperately for understanding, wisdom and strength to continue on and know what to do next. I searched each word that was spoken to me for a deeper meaning. I ran each sentence over and over in my mind trying to decipher its intended message. Finally, at the point of exhaustion I lay down in a field one night crying hysterically asking God “please just come and be me, because I don’t know how to be me anymore”.

      Deep in my heart I knew mothers can’t give up. Responsibilities loom and love reaches out beyond all limitations. It wasn’t until that night laying in the field under the stars when I ask God to take over and help me be me, that I wholeheartedly understood that He doesn’t want us to be doing this alone. He is more than a Prayer; He is our inner strength. He is the very breath we inhale, the Blood that keeps our body alive. He is our Soul. The heartbeat in our earthly body that keeps us alive and carries us through difficult experiences.

      My life from this point on has not been easy it has included devastating sorrow with the loss of our 11-year-old grandson but also great appreciation for the Blessing of his presence with us for those beautiful and precious 11 years.

      The Holy Spirit within continues to keep me strong and resilient, fills me with understanding, empathy and respect for others, but most of all fills me with Joy every time I am able to share in the daily Miracles and Blessing that continue to prove God’s Love for us.

      With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love, Carmela

       

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    • Naked Time….. The Ticking Of The Clock

      Posted at 7:46 PM by carmelasnelbaker
      Jan 4th

      Something that I have learned to love as a caregiver is the simplicity of a quiet house. A number of different times now I have found myself with someone who prefers a quiet home.

      All external noise is turned off and from the inside of the home we find ourselves truly appreciating the tick of the clock, the clicking on of the furnace keeps us warm.

      The music of the birds and the most simple blessings all disappear when TV, radio and the busyness of the world is allowed into our environment with one push of a button.

      Sometimes there is nothing better than being in a silent room and truly appreciating the simplest and most basic blessings in life.

      In the fast paced world as we know it today, multitasking and hurrying through each day trying to meet deadlines, due dates and appointments is not only an accepted way of life it has become an expected way of life.

      The phrase “don’t over think it” seems to be a very popular and a somewhat accepted thought in our busy society. What if though, a moment never really truly happens until we process it through our minds and into our memories. Or in simpler terms “think about it”.

      When we go through our days on “auto pilot” multitasking like robots in a routine of waking, pushing the ON button of our favorite form of access to the busy world, as we ingest all of the newest and latest updates and outrages from society, the moments that we are existing in are all being clouded by chaos and confusion.

      What if the very reason we sometimes cling to STUFF (for memory sake) is because we never allowed ourselves to be fully present in the moment, so we cling to a reminder as if it holds the same value as the experience itself.

      Quite possibly the Wisdom these beautiful Souls, I have the privilege of caring for, have shared with me is the preciousness of each and every second. It truly does not matter if the clock ticking next to us is an antique grandfather clock masterpiece or a battery operated wall clock. The true treasure is the time we are experiencing.  The true naked time…..undressed from current day distractions, news reports, chaos and opinions of doom.

      Like a shadow being cast on an object from the light before it, although it may appear to elongate our existence it can disappear in a second once the light is removed.

      With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love,  Carmela

       

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    • Somedays When You Really Want To Cry You Just Have To Make Yourself Laugh :)

      Posted at 10:30 AM by carmelasnelbaker
      Jul 1st

      This morning I was not in the best of moods. A combination of grumpy, overworked, sad, I guess a good term would be just sort of edgy. I am uncomfortable being grouchy, but thankfully I have friends that get grouchy with me and when we get together and grumpily discuss, silly options and solutions to our most pressing stresses it helps to calm the edgy demeanor and make us laugh.

      Sometimes when sad events or memories creep into the mind it has a tendency to have a domino effect that can cast a shadow of sadness onto any experience if you allow it. The best way to counter act the domino effect is to make yourself laugh.

      I found the Laughter Yoga video’s a few years back when I was working with adults with disabilities. It became a very fun way to distract or redirect negative behaviors on difficult days.

      I hope you will watch the video completely….I am sure you will find yourself laughing along with the video. Silliness is a good thing.

       

       

      silliness

      When my children were young we loved the VeggieTales Bob the tomato, Larry the cucumber,  could always spark a few giggles as well as relay many important positive messages and techniques for getting through life.

      Hopefully you will take a moment to enjoy their silliness.

      Larry shares one of his deepest fears with his therapist……. If my lips ever left my mouth, packed a bag and headed south…..

       

       

      Thank you to my silly friend’s early morning phone call that sends me into the day envisioning silly options to the monotony of reality.

      And thank you to Marianne’s along side of the road post for making me seek out some more silliness today 🙂 I hope you will click on the link and read her post. I am sure you will enjoy it!

      With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love,  Carmela

       

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    • How many times do YOU say no?

      Posted at 3:31 PM by carmelasnelbaker
      Aug 8th

      Don't Say That jar, collecting coins for bad words

      I love when I read a post and it brings up a past experience that relates to the situation but in a very different way. I recently read a very good blog post by candidkay about clearing out the negative in our lives and making room for more positive influences. The link to her post is here. Please be sure to read it, I am sure you will be glad you did!

      I am always both so amazed and fascinated at how alike and yet totally different our lives can be.  No two people are ever exactly alike. Just like Dr. Seuss says, “Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.

      I must tell you of an individual who I am very grateful to have met. I will refer to him here as Phillip. When I first met Phillip I was told  “You must never use the word no when you talk to Phillip”. Phillip had a lot of energy. He was about 6 foot tall. When happy he would sing, clap his hands, cheer and had a beautiful smile and laugh. When he was angry he was very strong. When agitated he would put his pointer finger out as a child does to resemble a gun, and begin shooting pshhhhh, pshhhhh, pshhhhh. If not calmed down fairly quickly and redirected from the cause of his anger, it could escalate into physical attacks on others as well as major property damage. He had a diagnosis of explosive disorder. Minor agitations could quickly grow into a major outburst without proper intervention.

      Some memories of my first week with Phillip went a bit like this. Phillip talked in broken sentences. “Orange Juice?” he asked.  “sure” I walk to the refrigerator to get him some.  I very calmly realize we are out of orange juice and in a happy light hearted way I reply “Oh no, we are out of orange juice. How about some grape?”  I don’t think I even realized that the word “no” flowed out of my mouth. “Why you  pshhhh, pshhhh, pshhhhh,  Thank heavens a veteran staff was training me. I look over at them questioningly “whats wrong?” I asked. “You said no” she said as she very calmly cracks a smile. So what do I do but respond all nervously “oh no, now what do we do?”  I knew this would be a bit of a challenge but good Lord it had only been one minute and I had him upset and already used the word no twice! Being trained to work at this home was both extremely funny and stressful at the same time!

      Believe it or not, this very quickly became one of my favorite places to work.  Although it is not easy getting used to seeing someone rushing toward a housemate to grab them and 90% of the “usual” statements used to respond to a situation like this were off limits. I learned to adapt very quickly with  positive reinforcements and redirection.  The “game plan” was when he is agitated simply offer him a choice to do something that he enjoys doing, like saying the word Ghostbusters (one of his favorite movies) and then getting it and putting it on for him to watch.

      I worked with him for a number of years and very quickly learned what things made him happy, calmed him and redirected his mood. One of my most successful calming plans for Phillip was singing He’s Got The Whole World In His Hands. Running in between two angry individuals grabbing the “attackers” hands looking directly into his eyes and breaking into a song became my #1 go to plan for keeping Peace. 🙂 Phillip loved going to church and he loved when you put his name into a verse….” He’s got  ______ _________, in his hands”.  It was a perfect example of the Lords peace in action.

      He is such a shining example of how positive energy can fill our lives with hope and peace. As candidkay put it we are all responsible for the energy we bring.  Are you the screaming meanie in your family, berating those around you for not serving your every need? Own it. Start where you are. Make it better. Also take care not to let others suck you into a their negative vortex.

      Although Phillip’s thought process was very childlike I truly believe he understood there is no room for negative energy in our lives. We need to weed out the negative! Like bad weeds in a garden, negative people and thoughts prevent a person from growing, blossoming and being productive.

      We should all take a lesson from Phillip, get creative, be more positive, say no less and look to Jesus to bring you peace 🙂

      Luke 24:36 While they were still talking about this, Jesus himself stood among them and said to them “Peace be with you”

       

      With respect, hope, joy and love,   Carmela

       

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