Carmela Snelbaker

Author of "Thank You For Your Service, Sheep!"
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    • Caution…… proceed with care ❤️ and respect

      Posted at 11:44 AM by carmelasnelbaker
      Sep 16th

      I believe I must be feeling many of the same things a majority of Americans might also be feeling but afraid to say for fear of offending a friend or being ostracized for having a different opinion then someone else.

      Life in America has changed significantly and in my opinion…… I most genuinely dislike the road we are on!!!! I am completely aware that “in current day America” when you express an opinion that differs from another person it is very common for people who think differently then you to now “place a label on you and call you “a hater” …… for daring to express your opinion!

      It doesn’t matter how or why we ended up at this point…… what truly matters is continuing forward this way seems so foreign and “un-American” to me.

      I am quite aware that our history as Americans was never perfect and discrimination, hate, and division was very much an active part of our history….. possibly because I was very young when it was happening, my exposure was limited and my parents were not “inflamers” constantly discussing only one very opinionated mindset or view (like what is available today with 24 hour 7 days a week opinionated televised coverage).

      I am totally at a loss for why our past division felt less scary to me then our current division does….but what I do know for sure is that my career choice for caring for people…. Has taught me love for ALL regardless of cultural upbringing, religious believes, political opinions, physical appearances, physical or mental abilities. We NEED to be WILLING TO SEE THE PERSON FIRST! We need to get away from division by “NOT LABELING PEOPLE”…….. choosing sides or dividing into groups.

      Even if you feel extremely devoted to your Christian faith it is imperative that we love all people and pray for them. As a Christian I have complete faith in the power of God and feel I should never be judgmental of other human beings or question their independent beliefs. We can also support and respect people of differing beliefs without believing they are doing something wrong simply because their footsteps may not follow the exact path as the one I may have chosen to follow.

      Today’s world seems to want to choose sides and make life into a “competitive sport” atmosphere and thrive on who should “win” or who is the “most right” I find this incredibly SAD we are ALL HUMANS. We all feel pain, we all are devastated by the loss of a loved one no matter what side we are on……and because we are all human we all will sometimes make mistakes, sometimes mispeak, sometimes bleed, feel trauma and possibly speak with emotions over logic…… instead OF LEADING with “chosen religious belief, political party affiliation, or any other cultural belief or “LABLE” we may strongly believe in…….. let’s start seeing each other and loving each other as people first!

      Let’s unanimously refrain from labeling each other in descriptive ways, making fun of and excluding those with differences and begin showing respect to all people! Nothing will ever change if we approach life as a competitive sport “label” each other and divide into sides! ☹️

      Unity should not be a “power grab” by the richest, the loudest, the scariest or most threatening individuals…… if this happens haven’t we totally lost our identity as the United States…. Isn’t individual Unity of it’s citizens the very distinctive trait that American Identity thrives on?

      With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love, Carmela

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    • “Help Me”

      Posted at 3:24 PM by carmelasnelbaker
      Aug 13th

      “Help me”. When physical energy is extremely low and life’s burden is heavy, verbal requests are condensed to the most powerful, heart wrenching simplicity. I cannot tell you how many times I have sat with someone facing end of life when the simple request “Help me” is repeated.

      As a caregiver I have had the honor of taking care of and meeting many people of many different faiths.

      Our lives are so enriched by listening to stories, experiences and traditions of different cultural belief systems and religions. I try very hard to honor each individuals beliefs and show great respect for family wishes and traditions.

      The common thread that flows through each experience is that of Love. Love is the great universal connection we all share and we all need.

      Divine Love shines through with a beauty, purity and selflessness that is recognizable no matter what “label” it may come wrapped in. As the sweetness of sugar is the base for candies of endless recipes and names, Divine Love is the common ingredient in countless religious denominations and beliefs.

      1 Corinthians 13 : 13 Now faith, hope, and love remain—these three things—and the greatest of these is love.

      Inspiration and Wisdom will always find us when we ask for it. It does not have to be requested in lengthy prayers.

      There are so many songs that contain so much encouragement and inspiration. I am sharing two of my favorites below.

      The simple request “help me” reminds me of the song from the Sidewalk Prophets : Help me find It

            Help Me Find It
      (The Sidewalk Prophets)
      I don’t know where to go from here …..
      It all used to seem so clear….
      I am finding I can’t do this on my own….
      I don’t know where to go from here
      As long as I know that you are near
      I’m done fighting
      I’m finally letting go
      I will trust in you’
      It never failed before’
      I will trust in you
      If there’s a road I should walk
      help me find it
      if I need to be still give me peace for the moment
      whatever your will
      whatever your will
      can you help me find it
      I am including the song below I hope you enjoy it as much as I do. This group will be coming to York PA for a free concert. The link to more information and tickets for the event can be found by clicking here look for York PA west york middle school August 26
      Another favorite is Come as you are. Teaching us to forgive ourselves for not being perfect and to reach out for guidance and support in making better choices.
      “Come As You Are”

                Crowder

      Come out of sadness
      From wherever you’ve been
      Come broken hearted
      Let rescue begin
      Come find your mercy
      Oh sinner come kneel
      Earth has no sorrow
      That heaven can’t heal
      Earth has no sorrow
      That heaven can’t heal
      come out of saddness
      from whereever you’ve been
      Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can’t heal…….

       

      With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love,  Carmela

       

       

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    • “The Luckiest People In The World”

      Posted at 10:10 AM by carmelasnelbaker
      Apr 15th

      Somewhere along our Journey on earth there is a moment in time that significance of being becomes a realization like it never was before. From that moment on, every moment going forward and every moment in the past will hold a different level of understanding.

      Life is like a mosaic piece of artwork. The finished piece is beautiful and we appreciate its beauty at a quick glance, however the true beauty is in the ability of the artist to place many fragmented pieces, otherwise unremarkable on their own, into a completed masterpiece.

      Much like Prayer and Meditation when a major life change forces us to stop and dwell in the moment it is then that we start to realize that each ugly fragment in our life is a very important part of a beautiful completed masterpiece.

      My thoughts, memories and conversations were drawn several times this week to amazing ways Divine enlightenment finds us through the connection of spiritual souls.

      I am forever amazed at how many times God has introduced a new person into my life who holds a tiny piece of wisdom that was the puzzle piece I needed to comfort a worry I was experiencing.

      When we stop trying to control our lives and the people around us, and we stop, pray, listen for, and follow God’s direction He will introduce us to spiritual beings who hold Wisdom that we need to continue on our journey. The Mosaic of a Spiritual Soul’s Journey on Earth contains many beautiful fragmented encounters with other Spiritual teachers. Every spiritual teacher is also a continual student as well.

      Divine Wisdom flows through each spiritual being who allows their heart light to shine. 

      The song People Who Need People kept coming to mind this week. “People who need people are the luckiest people in the world” How fortunate we are that God sends his infinite Wisdom through our hearts and lives and connects us all with Spiritual encounters of Divine Love.

      Always keep your heart and mind open for Divine Wisdom. The message we are searching for will arrive possibly from a passing encounter with a stranger or a well know friend, we can never be sure.

      Open your heart to both Receiving and Giving Divine Love to all people. Realization of significance of being brings both Peace and Joy to each moment in life.

      People who need people are the luckiest people in the world……..

      Somewhere, somehow we will find a new way of living, We’ll find a way of forgiving. Someway, Somehow, Someday……….

      With Respect Hope Joy and Love,  Carmela

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    • Seeking Clarity Amongst the Fog

      Posted at 3:08 PM by carmelasnelbaker
      Apr 20th

       

      There will be many times in a persons’ life when they will find themselves in a state of mental confusion or fog. Survivors will often be in a fog or mental daze for days after a catastrophe.

      Tapping into a positive vein of emotions and strength after an emotional or physical crisis is not always easy.

      Fear, sadness and devastation are very big hurdles to overcome. Attempting to take on the challenge alone can be overwhelming. Depending on the events that we find ourselves battling back from, accepting and trusting another human being with our fragile, vulnerable emotional state of confusion takes a tremendous amount of strength and trust. The alternative of keeping calm and carrying on as if nothing happened and everything is ok, leaves you dealing with very big problems with only weak human wisdom as your defense. Sort of like a very naïve citizen attempting to defend themselves in a courtroom against a relentless attorney. Even though it may be possible it also may leave you to living with angry resentful and negative feeling for years to come.

      Trusting in Divine Guidance and choosing to Live in Love gives you a power that is super natural and greater than all understanding. God’s wisdom will provide you with safety, clarity, strength and a wealth of support around each and every corner!  The beauty of God’s loving kindness will fill you with unexplainable levels of Peace, Love, Joy, Contentment, Wisdom,  Understanding and Hope.

      Please pray for those in need, so they may look to the heavens for truth and wisdom to begin living in Love and not fear. It is not until you are honest with yourself that your life will be open to a Divine Love and Protection that surpasses all understanding.

       

      With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love,   Carmela

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    • Life Sucks, Go Get Help :)

      Posted at 5:08 PM by carmelasnelbaker
      Apr 7th

      Life sucks I cannot wait until I can live in heaven with my grandson in peace! In saying that I in no way mean I am ready to end things here on earth as I know that the time that I spend here is not to be left to my own control. I have a really deep understanding and belief in God and I render my life to divine guidance, and will carry on until I have an official invitation into Heaven.

      So here is my newly acquired lessons, I am feeling the need to put out to the world so that it may help others who may find themselves confronted with similar conditions.

      First off as parents please be aware as we are raising our children, every experience we share with them is setting into their memory and leaving a mark. The way that we act in front of them, to them, and with them is a learning experience that they will use as reference in their future life.

      There are many adults living in this world who are acting in ways that are aggressive to others. They may or may not know the error of their ways. Some may have been taught this way and others may have simply fallen into these ways by other means. Some of these people may even be in the possession of a badge or other accreditation they may even use to gain your trust.

      I have seen people perform extremely well in the position of authority doing amazingly impressive helpful work; and in a matter of hours later I have watched the very same individual fall out of the ability to verbally express a need and resort to abusive techniques to obtain what they needed or what they wanted to obtain.

      Abuse is not always about physically attacking someone. Abuse also comes in ways of abuse of authority, manipulation and intimidation. The intimidation abuse is even more frustrating and debilitating to the victim because the abuser will always stop at nothing in attempts to trash and lie about the victim’s explanation of events. The victim will be portrayed as a liar, and a crazy person.

      Sometimes it may be mental health issues other times simply problems with authority. Maybe just a mean bully. Weather it is how you were taught from the beginning or simply it is just how you want to act. It is wrong and needs to be stopped and called attention too.

      As a victim there are things you can do. You can place a stop all contact with the person at your local police department. I am posting these things because in my own situation these things were not clearly apparent from the beginning and when stress is very high it makes functioning and responding so difficult. When you share your situation with others it gives you great strength and support. It still however can leave you at a loss for what to do next.

      Bullies are small people. They need to use manipulation and intimidation as a way to obtain what they want. They do not know how to communicate and they do not have knowledge and respect for boundaries. There are many wonderful books out that can help explain respect for boundaries, respect for another persons’ individual personal space, (I like to call this spacial boundaries) and respect for physical boundaries such as a door, a piece of furniture, or any object.

      I find it extremely sad because these individuals can be very nice people and do very good things when they are in a positive “head space” and when they are being admired, looked up to and receiving positive reinforcement, however when normal every day activity is happening and they feel the need for attention they find themselves unable to verbally find words to clearly state what their need is. At that point they may snap into a rage of demands, demeaning attacks using belittling and nasty words of hate and accusations. They will make themselves aggressively threatening and fearful by breaking down any physical boundary between you and them and disrespecting any request for personal space (spacial boundaries). The other person is always made out to be crazy and they will always portray themselves as being completely free from any fault. Their story of the events will be completely different than the actual event with very hateful accusations toward the opposing party.

      Please if you ever come across anything similar stand up to them and make them seek help, you have to walk away because they will never accept help from you because they KNOW they are always right. Unless you bring attention to a Bully and his actions he will continue to go about his ways and hurt innocent people and himself over and over again.
      Human beings have many more likenesses than differences. Every human has vulnerabilities.
      My heart goes out to those in pain, and I truly wish that no one had to experience pain and negative situations ever. If you have or are experiencing difficulties and negative situation, and have ever felt hopeless. Please take a moment to try to look at the situation in a completely different manner.
      Step back from your individual pain and examine the situation as though it were happening to someone else. Negative emotions are universal and every living being is vulnerable to them.

      What if the uncomfortable experiences that you endure were a divine gift of understanding and compassion that we could use to help the many others who are feeling hopeless? When we use our experiences to reach out and help others, we can open our hearts and minds to become the pathway through which Divine Guidance can lead others toward hope.

      Blessings to you and all those who are in pain. Be the change that you wish to see in the world. Open your heart and allow Divine Guidance to lead.

      I truly believe that Peace and Respect for all living creation is a very attainable goal. Every person can be a teacher. When you practice respect, you are teaching respect.

      Perhaps the answer to attaining this is as the Teacher’s Prayer states. If each one of us starts with teaching just a few people, many and beautiful things, so they can one day teach a few people. As this continues on and on we can make Gratitude, Hope, Joyfulness, and love abound.

      With respect, hope, wisdom and love,  Carmela

       

       

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